Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Thursday, November 06, 2008
soul2soul
what a privilege, honor, pleasure to share the gift of playing this extraordinary game designed to create deeper, more authentic relating. last night when i connected with Decker, Mark and Bryan it was a beautiful thing to feel myself pulled back into the Truth of the game -- knowing the safety of the space, the commitment to Truth, the depth of love. Being seen. Seeing. Loving. I'm honored to have shared this game with you all these years my sweet friends.
and to those who have yet to play, it starts with two basic ideas: tell the truth; hear the truth. i still believe a deep, life affirming commitment to these two precepts will save us all.
the game is based on Mark's work in RelationDancing. I highly recommend the book, but only if you want to have more fulfilling, rewarding and deeply intimate relations with others...
when we played hardcore years ago it was 6 rules: i will do what i want to do and i will not ask permission; i will not do what i do not want to do and i will not ask forgiveness; i will be culpable for my actions and will make amends for my transgressions (if i do things i say i won't or don't do things i say i will); there is no hiding my truth -- especially in those places when i want to withhold myself, i will open and share the truth because that's what creates intimacy; i will presuppose positive relating -- meaning i will assume your intention is positive toward me (if we have an explicit game); and finally, no shaming (subtle or otherwise) people for being who they are and where they are.
and to those who have yet to play, it starts with two basic ideas: tell the truth; hear the truth. i still believe a deep, life affirming commitment to these two precepts will save us all.
the game is based on Mark's work in RelationDancing. I highly recommend the book, but only if you want to have more fulfilling, rewarding and deeply intimate relations with others...
when we played hardcore years ago it was 6 rules: i will do what i want to do and i will not ask permission; i will not do what i do not want to do and i will not ask forgiveness; i will be culpable for my actions and will make amends for my transgressions (if i do things i say i won't or don't do things i say i will); there is no hiding my truth -- especially in those places when i want to withhold myself, i will open and share the truth because that's what creates intimacy; i will presuppose positive relating -- meaning i will assume your intention is positive toward me (if we have an explicit game); and finally, no shaming (subtle or otherwise) people for being who they are and where they are.
Friday, October 31, 2008
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Love's Threshing-Floor
"When love beckons to you, follow him, Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you, yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you believe in him, though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste to the garden. For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself. He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure, then is is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor, into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears."
~ Kahlil Gibran from _The Prophet_
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself. He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure, then is is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor, into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears."
~ Kahlil Gibran from _The Prophet_
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Loss v. What is
For what reason was I so focused on what I thought I would lose if I/we didn't "do it a certain way" rather than focused on what I/we have and what it makes possible?
Saturday, October 11, 2008
Political Cartoon
caption: "I keep thinking we should include something in the Constitution in case the people elect a fucking moron."
Friday, October 10, 2008
change
how do we transcend our current level of development and evolve
in a way that is most wholesome for the most number of people
while ALSO including all the elements of tradition that help
define who we are?
in a way that is most wholesome for the most number of people
while ALSO including all the elements of tradition that help
define who we are?
Monday, October 06, 2008
Humor: Investment Advice
With all the turmoil in the market today and the collapse of Lehman Bros and acquisition of Merrill Lynch by Bank of America this might be some good advice. For all of you with any money left, be aware of the next expected mergers so that you can get in on the ground floor and make some big bucks.
Watch for these consolidations in later this year:
1.) Hale Business Systems, Mary Kay Cosmetics, Fuller Brush, and W R. Grace Co. Will merge and become:
Hale, Mary, Fuller, Grace.
2.) Polygram Records, Warner Bros., and Zesta Crackers join forces and become:
Poly, Warner Cracker.
3.) 3M will merge with Goodyear and become:
MMMGood.
4. Zippo Manufacturing, Audi Motors, Dofasco, and Dakota Mining will merge and become:
ZipAudiDoDa .
5. FedEx is expected to join its competitor, UPS, and become:
FedUP.
6. Fairchild Electronics and Honeywell Computers will become:
Fairwell Honeychild.
7. Grey Poupon and Docker Pants are expected to become:
PouponPants.
8. Knotts Berry Farm and the National Organization of Women will become:
Knott NOW!
And finally...
9. Victoria's Secret and Smith &Wesson will merge under the new name:
Titty Titty Bang Bang.
Watch for these consolidations in later this year:
1.) Hale Business Systems, Mary Kay Cosmetics, Fuller Brush, and W R. Grace Co. Will merge and become:
Hale, Mary, Fuller, Grace.
2.) Polygram Records, Warner Bros., and Zesta Crackers join forces and become:
Poly, Warner Cracker.
3.) 3M will merge with Goodyear and become:
MMMGood.
4. Zippo Manufacturing, Audi Motors, Dofasco, and Dakota Mining will merge and become:
ZipAudiDoDa .
5. FedEx is expected to join its competitor, UPS, and become:
FedUP.
6. Fairchild Electronics and Honeywell Computers will become:
Fairwell Honeychild.
7. Grey Poupon and Docker Pants are expected to become:
PouponPants.
8. Knotts Berry Farm and the National Organization of Women will become:
Knott NOW!
And finally...
9. Victoria's Secret and Smith &Wesson will merge under the new name:
Titty Titty Bang Bang.
Friday, October 03, 2008
A Political joke you can enjoy no matter who you prefer!
Montana Cowboy
A Montana cowboy was overseeing his herd in a remote mountainous pasture when suddenly a brand-new BMW advanced out of a dust cloud towards him. The driver, a young man in a Brioni suit, Gucci shoes, Ray Ban sunglasses and YSL tie, leans out the window and asks the cowboy, "If I tell you exactly how many cows and calves you have in your herd, will you give me a calf?"
The cowboy looks at the man, obviously a yuppie, then looks at his peacefully grazing herd and calmly answers, "Sure, Why not?"
The yuppie parks his car, whips out his Dell notebook computer, connects it to his Cingular RAZR V3 cell phone, and surfs to a NASA page on the Internet, where he calls up a GPS satellite navigation system to get an exact fix on his location which he then feeds to another NASA satellite that scans the area in an ultra-high-resolution photo.
The young man then opens the digital photo in Adobe Photoshop and exports it to an image processing facility in Hamburg, Germany. Within seconds, he receives an email on his Palm Pilot that the image has been processed and the data stored. He then accesses a MS-SQL database through an ODBC connected Excel spreadsheet with e-mail on his Blackberry and, after a few minutes, receives a response.
Finally, he prints out a full-color, 150-page report on his hi-tech, miniaturized HP LaserJet printer and finally turns to the cowboy and says, "You have exactly 1,586 cows and calves."
"That's right. Well, I guess you can take one of my calves," says the
cowboy.
He watches the young man select one of the animals and looks on amused as the young man stuffs it into the trunk of his car.
Then the cowboy says to the young man, "Hey, if I can tell you exactly what your business is, will you give me back my calf?"
The young man thinks about it for a second and then says, "Okay, why
not? You're a Congressman for the U.S. Government," says the cowboy.
"Wow! That's correct," says the yuppie, "but how did you guess that?"
"No guessing required," answered the cowboy. "You showed up here even though nobody called you; you want to get paid for an answer I already knew, to a question I never asked. You tried to show me how much smarter than me you are; and you don't know a thing about cows, this is a herd of sheep.
"Now give me back my dog."
A Montana cowboy was overseeing his herd in a remote mountainous pasture when suddenly a brand-new BMW advanced out of a dust cloud towards him. The driver, a young man in a Brioni suit, Gucci shoes, Ray Ban sunglasses and YSL tie, leans out the window and asks the cowboy, "If I tell you exactly how many cows and calves you have in your herd, will you give me a calf?"
The cowboy looks at the man, obviously a yuppie, then looks at his peacefully grazing herd and calmly answers, "Sure, Why not?"
The yuppie parks his car, whips out his Dell notebook computer, connects it to his Cingular RAZR V3 cell phone, and surfs to a NASA page on the Internet, where he calls up a GPS satellite navigation system to get an exact fix on his location which he then feeds to another NASA satellite that scans the area in an ultra-high-resolution photo.
The young man then opens the digital photo in Adobe Photoshop and exports it to an image processing facility in Hamburg, Germany. Within seconds, he receives an email on his Palm Pilot that the image has been processed and the data stored. He then accesses a MS-SQL database through an ODBC connected Excel spreadsheet with e-mail on his Blackberry and, after a few minutes, receives a response.
Finally, he prints out a full-color, 150-page report on his hi-tech, miniaturized HP LaserJet printer and finally turns to the cowboy and says, "You have exactly 1,586 cows and calves."
"That's right. Well, I guess you can take one of my calves," says the
cowboy.
He watches the young man select one of the animals and looks on amused as the young man stuffs it into the trunk of his car.
Then the cowboy says to the young man, "Hey, if I can tell you exactly what your business is, will you give me back my calf?"
The young man thinks about it for a second and then says, "Okay, why
not? You're a Congressman for the U.S. Government," says the cowboy.
"Wow! That's correct," says the yuppie, "but how did you guess that?"
"No guessing required," answered the cowboy. "You showed up here even though nobody called you; you want to get paid for an answer I already knew, to a question I never asked. You tried to show me how much smarter than me you are; and you don't know a thing about cows, this is a herd of sheep.
"Now give me back my dog."
Thursday, October 02, 2008
The real difference between liberals and conservatives: Jonathan Haidt on TED.com
Psychologist Jonathan Haidt studies the five moral values that form the basis of our political choices, whether we're left, right or center. In this eye-opening talk, he pinpoints the moral values that liberals and conservatives tend to honor most. And he challenges all of us to step outside of our moral Matrix and pledge to work toward a more civil, productive political process. (Recorded February 2008 in Monterey, California. Duration: 18:42.)
The real difference between liberals and conservatives: Jonathan Haidt on TED.com
The real difference between liberals and conservatives: Jonathan Haidt on TED.com
Wednesday, October 01, 2008
Life and Death
I saw a friend in the hospital yesterday who went to the emergency room around noon and was in ICU for a good portion of the afternoon.
It brought up some things for me about life and death.
I have noticed that I'm most comfortable with my own death -- witnessing the loss of another... Egads, that just is much rougher for me. I have come the point in my life and literally had moments walking down the street or in my home thinking, "I would be completely at peace if I died." At least at peace in terms of who I am, what I have done and what I have created and how I have impacted the planet.
When I'm not at peace with my own death, I notice what I fear most is leaving this planet without having left people knowing how much they have changed my life and world. We're all connected and I think about what that connection does for me/you/us and I felt compelled to say this here:
Thanks for all the ways in which you have shown up in my life and in this world. I have become a better, wiser, stronger, more centered being because of the conversations with you over the years and being reflected by you as we all evolve.
I thank you for your sharing too. To witness you (to whatever degree you allow) in your process also fosters my faith in Tribes, community and supporting each other in this life and has me ease into the idea of my own death with much more grace.
Sending you all the healthiest blessings and wishing this moment is better than the last and each moment moving forward holds the same fate.
...isa
It brought up some things for me about life and death.
I have noticed that I'm most comfortable with my own death -- witnessing the loss of another... Egads, that just is much rougher for me. I have come the point in my life and literally had moments walking down the street or in my home thinking, "I would be completely at peace if I died." At least at peace in terms of who I am, what I have done and what I have created and how I have impacted the planet.
When I'm not at peace with my own death, I notice what I fear most is leaving this planet without having left people knowing how much they have changed my life and world. We're all connected and I think about what that connection does for me/you/us and I felt compelled to say this here:
Thanks for all the ways in which you have shown up in my life and in this world. I have become a better, wiser, stronger, more centered being because of the conversations with you over the years and being reflected by you as we all evolve.
I thank you for your sharing too. To witness you (to whatever degree you allow) in your process also fosters my faith in Tribes, community and supporting each other in this life and has me ease into the idea of my own death with much more grace.
Sending you all the healthiest blessings and wishing this moment is better than the last and each moment moving forward holds the same fate.
...isa
Sunday, September 28, 2008
Do you know what caused current US economic issues?
Watch this highly informative video that traced the cause of our current crisis that had its roots planted 12 years ago. There's lots of text so you might need to press pause a few times! :)
Saturday, September 27, 2008
Dealing with v. Being with
A few weeks ago, I was in some conflict with my beautiful partner and I was really frustrated. To make myself feel better, I said, “I guess this is what partnership is about — dealing with your partner when they aren’t who you think they are/wish they were/want them to be.” I was full of impatience and frustration, feeling “at odds” with the situation and the partnership.
This week, as we worked through some things, I had a huge shift and said, “this is what partnership is about — figuring out how to be with your partner when they aren’t who you they are/wish they were/want them to be.” This time, I was full of joy, feeling like I was in it with my partner in a co-creation process rather than in opposition.
This is tremendous shift in thinking about how relating operates — one is about “dealing with” as if it is something to be separated from with a sense of hopelessness and lack of solution; the other is about “being with” by surrendering into the partnership from a place of faith in the union that you can and will figure out how to be with the differences.
Ah, how grateful I am. :)
This week, as we worked through some things, I had a huge shift and said, “this is what partnership is about — figuring out how to be with your partner when they aren’t who you they are/wish they were/want them to be.” This time, I was full of joy, feeling like I was in it with my partner in a co-creation process rather than in opposition.
This is tremendous shift in thinking about how relating operates — one is about “dealing with” as if it is something to be separated from with a sense of hopelessness and lack of solution; the other is about “being with” by surrendering into the partnership from a place of faith in the union that you can and will figure out how to be with the differences.
Ah, how grateful I am. :)
A Prayer for You
A Prayer for You
I'm happy to announce that this a perfect moment. It's a perfect
moment for many reasons, but especially because I have been
inspired to say gigantic prayer for all of you. I've been roused
to unleash a divinely greedy, apocalyptically healing prayer for
each and every one of you -- even those of you who don't believe
in the power of prayer.
And so I am starting to pray right now to the God of Gods... the
God beyond all Gods... the Girlfriend of God... the Teacher of
God... the Goddess who invented God.
Dear Goddess, You who never kill but only change:
I pray that my exuberant, suave and accidental words will move you
to shower ferocious blessing down on everyone who reads this
benediction.
I pray that you will give them what they don't even know they want
-- not just the boons they think they need but everything they've
always been afraid to even imagine or ask for.
Dear Goddess, You wealthy anarchist burning heaven to the ground:
Many of the divine chameleons out there don't even know that their
souls will live forever. So please use your blinding magic to help
them see that they are all wildly creative geniuses too big for
their own personalities.
Guide them to realize that they are all completely different from
what they think they are and more exciting than they can possibly
imagine.
Make it illegal, immoral, irrelevant, unpatriotic and totally
tasteless for them to be in love with anyone or anything that's no
good for them.
O Goddess, You who give us so much love and pain mixed together
that our morality is always on the verge of collapsing:
I beg you to cast a boisterous love spell that will nullify all
the dumb ideas, bad decisions and nasty conditioning that have
ever cursed the wise and sexy virtuosos out there.
Remove, banish, annihilate and laugh into oblivion any jinx that
has clung to them, no matter how long they've suffered from it,
and even if they've become accustomed or addicted to its ugly
companionship.
And please conjure an aura of protection around them so that they
will receive an early warning if they are ever about to act in
such a way as to bring another hex or plague or voodoo into their
lives in the future.
Dear Goddess, sweet Goddess, You sly universal virus with no
fucking opinion:
I pray that you will help all the personal growth addicts out
there become disciplined enough to go crazy in the name of
creation, not destruction.
I pray that you will help all the personal growth addicts out
there become disciplined enough to go crazy in the name of
creation, not destruction.
I pray that you will teach them the difference between oppressive
self-control and liberating self-control, awaken in them the power
to do the half-right thin when it is impossible to do the totally
right thing.
Arouse the Wild Woman within them -- even if they're men.
And please give them bigger, better, more original sings and
wilder, wetter, more interesting problems.
Dear Goddess, You pregnant slut who scorns all mediocre longing:
I pray that you will inspire all the compassionate rascals
communing with this prayer to love their enemies just in case
their friends turn out to be jerks.
Provoke them to throw away or give away all the things they own
that encourage them to be3lieve that they are better than anyone
else.
Show them how much fun it is to brag about what they cannot do and
do not have.
Most of all, Goddess, brainwash them with your freedom so that
they never love their own pain more than anyone else's pain.
Dear Goddess, You psychedelic mushroom cloud at the center of all
our brains:
The curiously diving human beings reading this prayer deserve
everything they are yearning for and much, much more.
So please bless them with lucid dreams while they are wide awake
and solar-energy-operated sex toys that work even in the dark and
vacuum cleaners for their magic carpets and a knack for avoiding
other people's hells and their very own 900 number so that
everyone has to pay to talk to them and a secret admirer who is
not a psychotic stalker.
Dear Goddess, You fiercely tender, hauntingly reassuring,
orgiastically sacred feeling that is even now running through all
of our soft, warm animal bodies:
I pray that you provide everyone out there with a license to bend
and even break all rules, laws and traditions that keep them apart
from the things they love.
Show them how to purge the wishy-washy wishes that distract them
from their daring, dramatic, divine desires.
And teach them that they can have anything they want if they'll
only ask for it in an unselfish way.
And now dear God of Gods, God beyond all Gods, Girlfriend of God,
Teacher of God, Goddess who invented God, I bring this prayer to a
close, trusting that in these mysterious moments you have begun to
change everyone out there in the exact way they've needed to
change in order to express their soul's code.
Amen. Awomen. And glory halle-fucking-lujah.
I'm happy to announce that this a perfect moment. It's a perfect
moment for many reasons, but especially because I have been
inspired to say gigantic prayer for all of you. I've been roused
to unleash a divinely greedy, apocalyptically healing prayer for
each and every one of you -- even those of you who don't believe
in the power of prayer.
And so I am starting to pray right now to the God of Gods... the
God beyond all Gods... the Girlfriend of God... the Teacher of
God... the Goddess who invented God.
Dear Goddess, You who never kill but only change:
I pray that my exuberant, suave and accidental words will move you
to shower ferocious blessing down on everyone who reads this
benediction.
I pray that you will give them what they don't even know they want
-- not just the boons they think they need but everything they've
always been afraid to even imagine or ask for.
Dear Goddess, You wealthy anarchist burning heaven to the ground:
Many of the divine chameleons out there don't even know that their
souls will live forever. So please use your blinding magic to help
them see that they are all wildly creative geniuses too big for
their own personalities.
Guide them to realize that they are all completely different from
what they think they are and more exciting than they can possibly
imagine.
Make it illegal, immoral, irrelevant, unpatriotic and totally
tasteless for them to be in love with anyone or anything that's no
good for them.
O Goddess, You who give us so much love and pain mixed together
that our morality is always on the verge of collapsing:
I beg you to cast a boisterous love spell that will nullify all
the dumb ideas, bad decisions and nasty conditioning that have
ever cursed the wise and sexy virtuosos out there.
Remove, banish, annihilate and laugh into oblivion any jinx that
has clung to them, no matter how long they've suffered from it,
and even if they've become accustomed or addicted to its ugly
companionship.
And please conjure an aura of protection around them so that they
will receive an early warning if they are ever about to act in
such a way as to bring another hex or plague or voodoo into their
lives in the future.
Dear Goddess, sweet Goddess, You sly universal virus with no
fucking opinion:
I pray that you will help all the personal growth addicts out
there become disciplined enough to go crazy in the name of
creation, not destruction.
I pray that you will help all the personal growth addicts out
there become disciplined enough to go crazy in the name of
creation, not destruction.
I pray that you will teach them the difference between oppressive
self-control and liberating self-control, awaken in them the power
to do the half-right thin when it is impossible to do the totally
right thing.
Arouse the Wild Woman within them -- even if they're men.
And please give them bigger, better, more original sings and
wilder, wetter, more interesting problems.
Dear Goddess, You pregnant slut who scorns all mediocre longing:
I pray that you will inspire all the compassionate rascals
communing with this prayer to love their enemies just in case
their friends turn out to be jerks.
Provoke them to throw away or give away all the things they own
that encourage them to be3lieve that they are better than anyone
else.
Show them how much fun it is to brag about what they cannot do and
do not have.
Most of all, Goddess, brainwash them with your freedom so that
they never love their own pain more than anyone else's pain.
Dear Goddess, You psychedelic mushroom cloud at the center of all
our brains:
The curiously diving human beings reading this prayer deserve
everything they are yearning for and much, much more.
So please bless them with lucid dreams while they are wide awake
and solar-energy-operated sex toys that work even in the dark and
vacuum cleaners for their magic carpets and a knack for avoiding
other people's hells and their very own 900 number so that
everyone has to pay to talk to them and a secret admirer who is
not a psychotic stalker.
Dear Goddess, You fiercely tender, hauntingly reassuring,
orgiastically sacred feeling that is even now running through all
of our soft, warm animal bodies:
I pray that you provide everyone out there with a license to bend
and even break all rules, laws and traditions that keep them apart
from the things they love.
Show them how to purge the wishy-washy wishes that distract them
from their daring, dramatic, divine desires.
And teach them that they can have anything they want if they'll
only ask for it in an unselfish way.
And now dear God of Gods, God beyond all Gods, Girlfriend of God,
Teacher of God, Goddess who invented God, I bring this prayer to a
close, trusting that in these mysterious moments you have begun to
change everyone out there in the exact way they've needed to
change in order to express their soul's code.
Amen. Awomen. And glory halle-fucking-lujah.
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Ziji
The Tibetan word for confidence is ziji. Zi means "shine" or "glitter", and ji means "splendor”, or "dignity", and sometimes also has the sense of "monolithic". So ziji expresses shining out, rejoicing while remaining dignified.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
5 Tips for Improving Your (Poi Fire Dancing) Flow
If you've been struggling with finding your fluidity, we have the answer for you! Check out the new article outlining 5 must have techniques you can use to add more flow to your practice - 5 Tips for Improving Your (Poi Fire Dancing) Flow
Saturday, September 06, 2008
Just Dyed my hair again...
Never dyed it darker before. This was an interesting suggestion on Atreyu's part and I'm glad I went black. I then added the fuschia to soften it up a bit.
Saturday, August 30, 2008
My political compass today
Economic Left/Right: 3.12
Social Libertarian/Authoritarian: -4.51
i'm fascinated that about 2 years ago the economic line was more like -2.5 or something in there, so i've had more movement in the direction of neo liberalism. Interesting.
If you haven't done so, you too can take the Political Compass Test.
Social Libertarian/Authoritarian: -4.51
i'm fascinated that about 2 years ago the economic line was more like -2.5 or something in there, so i've had more movement in the direction of neo liberalism. Interesting.
If you haven't done so, you too can take the Political Compass Test.
2008 Primaries Political Compass
Fascinating look at the spectrum of politics offered in the 2008 US Primaries.
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